Is there anything more beautiful than two people coming together in holy matrimony to signify their love and commitment in front of God, family, and friends?
Monogamy and marriage is something civilization across the world have practiced for hundreds of years. And each person’s desires and intentions to couple up differs. Some want to spend the rest of their life with their best friend. Others dream of starting a family with someone they love.
Whatever the reason may be, marriage encompasses a range of responsibilities above and beyond the vows you both declared on your wedding day.
As you’re probably already aware, getting to know each other through dating and the honeymoon period is the easy part. On the other hand, a lasting marriage takes continuous hard work to keep on the right track.
With that said, hopefully, you can find some inspiration and advice on what areas to be mindful of below.
It’s completely natural to experience a range of feelings following the wedding. You may be excited and anxious. In some cases, newlyweds feel a bit low during the anti-climax period.
The feelings are expected to vary per each person in the marriage. So you may not be feeling in-sync with your other half’s feelings, but that’s nothing to worry about either.
After a week or so, your emotions will begin to stabilize as you begin to settle into a routine together as newlyweds. And so it’s vital not to let your post-wedding emotions get the best of you and your relationship.
This section highlights the need for newlyweds to practice making way for their partners’ interests, thoughts, and feelings.
From the big decisions like choosing a new home. To smaller decisions such as deciding what to have for dinner. To achieve a middle ground in decision making, compromising is essential.
Find Joint Interests
No one expects your love to be based on having a long list of shared interests and passions. But finding something that triggers both of your enthusiasm can help you both to maintain a strong connection with each other.
Beyond finding brand new activities to try together, also try indulging in each other’s interests. For example, your new wife may love watching football, such as the upcoming Giants vs. 49ers game, so why not ask to join in?
However, be mindful of treading on your other half’s toes. You don’t need to involve yourself in every hobby or interest of theirs, which leads us to the next point.
Give Each Other Space
As the saying goes, absence makes the heart grow fonder. But if you’ve moved in together, and for example, both work from home, spending time apart may prove more difficult.
But there are still things you can try to do to gain some healthy separation. Such as spending time away from each other in different rooms of your home. You could be cooking up a new recipe in the kitchen. And they might be shopping online for some new clothes.
As you merge your lives together as a couple, maintaining your own interests and hobbies is essential for your well-being. As such, you should respect your spouse’s need for personal space.
Small Kind Gestures Matter
Whether making your new wife breakfast in bed every Sunday or offering to drive them to work when it’s icy and cold outside. Each small gesture makes a lasting difference. Making your partner feel loved and valued, means they are much more likely to reciprocate kindness in their own way too.
Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff
Small stuff includes subjects that, in the grand scheme of your relationship, are not that important.
Of course, it’s for you and your partner to distinguish what’s important and what isn’t. And in doing so, you’ll direct your efforts towards priority issues that need resolving. Opposed to complaining at one another about insignificant matters, which will only drag you both down overtime.
Make Time For Intimacy
An ultimate way for you and your partner to keep the love and excitement alive in your marriage is by making time for intimacy.
Touching one another, such as hand-holding and kissing, releases a hormone called oxytocin, which enhances the bond between two people.
Gentle light touching, hugs and affection, will ensure your partner feels validated, wanted, and loved. And it’s just as important for your husband or wife to give you the same attention.
After the honeymoon, when you’re back home, and ordinary life kicks back in—such as work, running errands, taking care of your home, and paying the bills. It’s easy to get distracted from your relationship and let the fun and passion slip away underneath all the serious stuff you have to do.
As a remedy, inject some humor in your normal day to day. Make each other laugh with funny stories, bad impressions of each other, and create inside jokes. Laughing together will make daily life together feel much more pleasurable.
Accept One Another’s Differences
As you transition from fiances to spouses, reality sets in. And what were once rose-tinted glasses are now completely clear, exposing the good, but also what you might consider “bad” parts of your other wife or husband.
Each and everyone has excellent traits and accompanying them other characteristics that may be considered less desirable. Providing the most important things are present in your wife or husband, which form the basis for a long-lasting relationship. Such as loyalty, commitment, kindness, and [insert your non-negotiable traits here]. It helps not to get too hung up on things you dislike. Be it their dress sense, spending habits, or slow-driving. Instead, choose to accept your partner as they are, and your connection will flourish.
Whether you believe fate has brought you together or not, from here on, it’s up to the newlyweds to decide the direction of their marriage. Hopefully, the tips above have given you a few ways you can start nurturing your marriage and make the best of your new life together.