
If youโve recently been invited to a lovely garden party, evening dinner, soiree, gala, or other such events, itโs always important to send a heartfelt “Thank You” afterward. Manners mean more than just doing what youโre expected. Hosting is hard work, a lot of stress, and comes with very high expectations. Sending a Thank You tells the host or hostess shows that you recognize all the effort they put into the event. So, what are the best ways to show your gratitude? In this post, weโll cover a few surefire ways to say thank you to the host or hostess of the event you recently attended!
Send a bouquet
There are few things more meaningful, timeless, and sentimental than sending a Thank You bouquet after attending an event. The best part about a flower delivery is that itโs an all-around excellent option for everyone from the closest people in your life, like your mom or sister, to those who you may not know as well yet, like a work friend or other acquaintance. When youโre considering sending flowers, take stock of your options:
- Sunflowers are a perfect way to thank a host or hostess after a garden party or other springtime event.
- Hydrangeas are always a timeless and classic option due to their bright and beautiful blooms.
- Carnations are elegant, classy, and long-lasting.
- Tulips are the perfect thank you for a summer BBQ or Memorial Day cookout.
If flowers arenโt exactly your style, donโt worryโyou have other options.
Write a letter
If you had an especially great time, or you attended an event of some special significance, like a wedding, funeral, bridal shower, baby shower, or First Holy Communion, a hand-written Thank You letter really goes above and beyond. Not only are hand-written letters cordial and thoughtful, they show that you care enough to sit down and share your thoughts with the host or hostess. There are plenty of services that can help you with thank you card ideas. Expensive gifts are one way to thank, but nothing compares to the sentiment you can express in your own writing. Here are some tips if youโre planning on penning your own letter:

- First, thank them for a lovely time.
- Then, explain what your favorite aspects of the event were: how lovely the decorations were, how delicious the food was, what fun music they chose, etc.
- Next, tell them what attending meant to you. Did it feel like you grew closer at the party? Was it an unexpected invitation that helped you feel more included? Feel free to be a little sentimental here!
- Then, round it out with another Thank You. You could also choose to invite them to an event you may be hosting in the near future! That brings us to our next optionโฆ
Invite them in return
If youโre hosting an event of your own, one polite and friendship-building way to thank a host or hostess for inviting you to theirs is to invite them back. Now, it might be a little beyond the call of duty to put on an entire event as a Thank You โ you could be entering some pretty outlandish territory if you did that, inciting a never-ending cycle of Thank You parties โ but if you do happen to be hosting soon, you should probably extend the invite.
A bottle of wine
Last but not least, you could always send them a nice bottle of wine. Of course, be sure that you pay attention to whether they enjoy partaking in alcoholic beverages first โ you wouldnโt want to accidentally send a bottle of wine to a hostess whoโs teetotal! What an oafish blunder that would be!
If a fine bottle of wine is an appropriate Thank you for your host or hostess, here are some helpful tips to help you pick just the right vintage:
- Champaign is perfect for celebrations, like bridal showers (and a bottle of sparkling cider could be a fun alternative if itโs a baby shower!)
- Rose is a great option for a garden party Thank You
- Dinner parties call for a luscious red wine, like Pinot Noir or Cabernet Sauvignon
- You just canโt go wrong with a Zinfandel
- White wine is always a great way to say Thanks for a fun ladiesโ night โ try out a Chardonnay for the zesty women in your inner circle!

Saying Thanks is a lovely gesture on its own, so no matter what way you decide to show your appreciation, know that it will be very much appreciated!