Whether or not you are newlyweds or have been in a relationship for some time, things can sometimes get a bit “flat” if you aren’t careful. In no way whatsoever is this an indication that anything is amiss with how you feel about each other, but it’s only natural that life gets in the way – work, kids, family, stress, tiredness and busy schedules. Every romance deserves a little boost now and again. Here are five wonderful ways of injecting some of that initial excitement back into your marriage.
Do something different this weekend
The enemies of a creative and fun-sparked relationship are drudgery and routine. Weekends are where people traditionally let their hair down, although this in itself can lead to stalemate when you end up doing the same things or can’t agree on some new pastime.
There’s an easy solution. Throw caution to the wind and do something you’ve never done together before. The beauty of this suggestion is that the possibilities are endless, whether that’s booking an impulsive weekend stay in a hotel somewhere, embarking on salsa classes or simply heading off towards the horizon in the car with overnight bags and only the vaguest idea about where your mystery tour might culminate.
Fun nights in
For all the social activities or clubs you could participate in, there’s no better way to put some passion back into your love lives than doing so when there’s no one else around. Why not clear the furniture aside, choose a playlist of your favorite tunes, mix some home-made cocktails, then while away the hours dancing together? This will, literally, bring you closer together, since some of this music might be appropriate for the traditional ‘slow dance’ section of any wedding. Perhaps it was even featured in your own? Lowering your inhibitions in this way will provoke laughter. I
If you don’t have the energy for dancing, spend time on the couch together watching a movie or doing a personal Bible study. You can even do a 30-minute weekly devotional with each other to help grow and strengthen your relationship.
Celebrations
Be prepared to make a song and dance about every occasion, no matter how tenuous your own connection to the event in question. July 14th? That’s Bastille Day, a huge deal in France. You could bedeck your own living room in France’s national colors of red, white and blue, then enjoy an evening of Parisian cuisine washed down with many glasses of French wine. Why not wear traditional costumes to enhance the party spirit? As there are over 190 countries in the world you have plenty national days to choose from. Then there are birthdays, family occasions. Make a point of being social and attending those functions you might once have felt like declining. This will all keep your spirits as bubbly as wedding champagne, keeping you in a positive frame of mind.
Get flirtatious again
Flirting should never stop just because you’re blissfully married. This is something you should continue to do to one another. He’s standing in front of you in the checkout queue at your local supermarket. Give him a cheeky pat on his backside. She has come home from a long day at the office. Find out what time she expects to be home, then ensure there’s a bubble bath ready for her. Flirting with each other like you would on a dating website will create a little spark between you.
Chat in bed
Obviously, the bedroom is mainly seen as the place where you sleep or make love. But simply lying together and snuggling while you share your thoughts and aspirations is a terrific way to bond. This will bring you so much closer than simply chatting over the dinner table.
What do YOU do to keep the flame alive in your marriage?
20
Leave us a comment!