Technological Temptations: Keeping Social Networking From Destroying Your Relationship

Social networking from photo sites and Facebook to online chats and interactive gaming can all put a strain on a relationship. Here are some surprising statistics for you to chew on, as well as ideas to keep technology from ruining a good thing.

Oversharing Your Relationship Status and Details

Sometimes, sharing details of your relationship can be cute, even endearing. But, sometimes, oversharing comes back to bite you. If you’re not sure how your partner feels about public online displays of affection, you should check with him or her before you start posting a million status updates.

Make sure your partner is on-board with your mushiness before posting photos and statuses about him or kissing and telling the whole world.

Posting Sexy Photos

This one could get you into some legal trouble, if you’re not careful. According to at least one Raleigh family law attorney, sexy photo postings, posting sexy “selfies”, or pictures of your ex could not only land you in hot water, but it could break up a marriage or relationship. And, the person you’re posting photos of could come back to sue you later if they’re a little too over the top (i.e nude photos). It’s called “revenge porn” and many states have laws prohibiting it.

Actively Keeping In Touch With The Ex

You’re actively keeping in touch with your ex? Why?! This is one of the worst things you can do. When you end a relationship, it’s over. Most people aren’t too understanding about their significant others remaining friends with a past lover. It’s rare that it happens and works out for the best. More often than not, it sparks jealousy and distrust. We don’t recommend it!

Monitoring Your SO’s Profile

Are you chasing after your significant other? Some find that adorable, but most people think that’s just being creepy.

This is especially true if the relationship is young. But, even when you’ve been married for years, your spouse may just want his privacy. If you don’t give it to him, it could put unnecessary strain on your relationship. If you’re bugging your man, he may bolt instead of feeling loved.

Think of it from the other person’s perspective. When you stalk your significant other, you’re essentially saying that you don’t trust what they do online. Now, of course it’s OK to see what they’re up to now and then, comment on their Facebook wall, and follow them on Twitter to get regular updates. But, most people agree that you’d be crossing a line by interjecting into every conversation they have online, or getting between your significant other and his or her friends.

Posting Passive-Aggressive or Vague Posts

It’s called “sub-tweeting” and it’s not a great way of handling problems in your relationship. Most guys agree that you should stay away from posting vague or passive-aggressive status updates. If something is stressing you out about your relationship, talk to your significant other.

Don’t involve social media in your relationship problems. And, why would you want to anyway? Deep down, you know you love your significant other so if you wouldn’t want them doing it to you, don’t do it to them.

Remember, you’re lovers, not adversaries!