You may have heard of divorce parties in the past, and what I am doing is no different from many of the divorce party ideas that plenty of people have once they make the split from their long-term partner. Plenty of people have polarizing opinions about what it means to have a divorce party, but I’m here to tell you that there are plenty of different ways that you can celebrate moving on in your life, and I, frankly am excited to throw myself a divorce party for my mental health.
Here are a few of the reasons why I happen to be throwing a bash for my split!
- Why Not?
People have thrown much bigger parties for much less. If there’s ever a time to have needless, spontaneous fun, it’s now.
- I Deserve to Treat Myself
There are plenty of times in life when people truly deserve to treat themselves, and this is one of those times. I want to have amazing food, dance, listen to music and get wild with all of my best friends! Even if a divorce goes smoothly, the event and the change that come along with it can cause a lot of stress, so I’m giving myself a break.
- Reminding Myself That This Is a Celebration!
If there’s one thing that I can always use a little reminder of, it’s that at the end of the day, this transition is a celebration. Even though people are sad about divorces, it’s important to look at this as a happy occasion it is when both people are able to move on and find other things that can make them happier!
- Gathering My Support System
One of the reasons why throwing a divorce party is really great for my mental health is the ability to gather my support system all in one place to spend time with me during some of the tougher parts of this transition. Even though plenty of people want to be there for me, it can be very nice to gather them all in one place and celebrate with them.
- …And Giving Them a Well-Deserved Thank You
Another note on my support system is that I believe they deserve a giant thank you for being there for me during a tough period. Even though they are my close friends and loved ones, and I would obviously do the same thing for them in a heartbeat, I want to recognize that it takes effort to show up for me as they have done, and I want to celebrate them just like I’m celebrating myself.
- The Sheer Joy of Having Fun
Sometimes, it’s simply important to set aside some designated time to have fun. Especially in adult life during stressful times, fun can be the first thing to go out the window, and I need to make sure, especially right now, that it’s a priority I hold dear.
- Starting a New Chapter
Like many celebrations, but this party is going to serve as a transition into a new chapter for me. Making the leap into a new part of my life can be scary, but throwing a party to start this chapter can make it feel much more like a celebration and remind me that I have so many supporters by my side.
- Making It About Me
One thing that I don’t see often enough is the ability to prioritize one’s self in the process of a breakup or getting divorced. Even with many of the sentiments surrounding divorce parties, it can often be about trashing the ex, moving out of one’s old life or processing the difficult emotions that have come from the situation of the marriage. One thing that I feel very strongly about is that this party, at the end of the day, is about me and my experience, not about the other person. This is a way that I can shake the idea that relationships and my relationship status have the power to define who I am.
- Setting Positive Intentions
One thing that I really love about this party is that it’s allowing me to have a space to set positive intentions about my life going forward. Creating a positive environment specifically for the purpose of moving forward can be the best way for me to assure myself in my positive progression, and that makes me excited for what’s to come in my future, single or not!
Reasons I’m Throwing a Divorce Party
I found that one of the best things I can do for my mental health to close out this chapter is to throw a divorce party. Even though this might not be the best choice for everybody, it certainly helps me assure myself in my mental health by being surrounded by my support system as we celebrate a new chapter in my life together. Have you ever been to a divorce party? How do you feel about them?