Marriage is a major step that can change the course of two people’s lives for the better. Although in the right context it can be a positive change, as with everything in life there are also challenges that accompany it. One of these challenges is finding the time to spend with your partner. Another includes not getting too comfortable and allowing the relationship to slowly drift into one where you feel like roommates as opposed to lovers. In order to prevent this from happening, you’re going to need to put in work. Don’t be alarmed, however, because the work required is what you were very likely doing before you got married. This article will look at five things you should never stop doing just because you’ve walked down the aisle.
1. Sweet Texts
If you think back to when you were dating your spouse, you can probably remember receiving random texts that left you feeling elated all day. These texts may have consisted of a few sweet nothings, but at the time they probably felt like everything. Just because you get married, it doesn’t mean that sweet and thoughtful text messages should gradually come to an end. Irrespective of how busy your day may be, you should always try and find time for a sweet text. It may consist of a good morning message, an expression of appreciation, showing care by asking about their day, or sending something sexy and unexpected. You know best what will brighten up your partners day, so try and endeavor to compose a daily text accordingly.
2. Date Nights
Going on dates with your significant other can be an exciting thing to do. It is one of those things you may miss about being single as it sometimes comes to a halt once you get married. The good news is, these nights of chivalry and romance can be revived with a little effort. All it should take is you creating free time, cleaning up a little and picking a special location. If you want to redefine romance or swap it in for some adventure, consider a different type of date night. One idea could be going on a double date to the Pittsburgh Escape Room where you can engage in some real-life adventure. Having to break out of a room by cracking codes, solving riddles, putting together the pieces of a puzzle and finding clues should satisfy your need for fun and adventure as a couple.
3. Pillow Talk
Bedtime, after you get married, may seem like it consists of meeting your partner snoring or being squashed by toddlers who claim there are monsters under their bed. However, bedtime should be a sacred place for yourself and your partner to enjoy some good old pillow talk. Communication is an important aspect of a relationship both before and after marriage, so try and keep the tradition going after you tie the knot. It may mean putting the kids to bed earlier and leaving the night light on to avoid any late-night creeping. It could also require a little sacrifice like staying up a little later if your partner gets home or goes to bed later than you do. Pillow time is where you can talk about how your day went, reflect, show appreciation for the positive things your partner is doing, and bring up things that you may be bothering you. On this note, try your best to make it a priority.
Keeping the sexual attraction going by flirting with your husband or wife shouldn’t stop after marriage. This could mean random physical contact such as hugs or kisses, playful eye contact or kinky comments. Whatever kind of flirting that you did before you got married should continue long after marriage. It should help add spice to your relationship, and also help keep it playful as opposed to overly serious. Aside from the reasons mentioned above, flirting can simply be good fun.
5. Words of Affirmation
If you have read the ‘5 Love Languages’ by Gary Chapman, then you are probably familiar with all of the love languages and aware that words of affirmation happen to be one of them. Affirming words is a great way to remind your partner of how much they mean to you and reaffirm your commitment to them. When you’ve been together for a while, it is common that you may begin taking your spouse for granted. So that they don’t feel this way, it’s important you remind them of how much you appreciate them and why you love them regularly. This could be expressed verbally, through text as mentioned above, or put on the inside of a card.
6. Looking Good
You’ve probably heard it a million times over, but looking good is pretty important and should continue after marriage. One of the things that separate your marriage from other relationships in your life is the physical attraction. For this reason, it is imperative that you keep that attraction alive after years of marriage and kids if you choose to have them. Keeping your hair well groomed, ensuring your clothes look nice, and maintaining a comfortable weight are ways you can achieve this. Even when you’re in the house, you can make a little effort to look attractive. Additionally, don’t be afraid to try a new look to keep the physical attraction exciting. This could mean switching up your hair or changing your wardrobe to create a new look. In any instance, explore different ways to look good for both yourself and your partner.
Marriage is a learning ground for everyone who chooses to embark on the journey. It also, however, isn’t always as complicated as it seems if you throw some consistency into the mix. There were certain actions you took and ways that you behaved before you got married which likely contributed to you ending up at the altar in the first place. Since it is said that if something isn’t broken, don’t fix it, you should continue doing the things that worked for you during your dating phase. By doing so, you should be able to help keep the spark in your relationship going for years to come.